Author: Joleen (Bridges) Halloran
It starts in the morning, when you wake up with the thought that you didn’t get enough sleep, and then begin to realize as you are preparing for the day, that you don’t have enough time in the day to do what you need to do. These thought patterns progress into your day; not enough money for pizza again, they don’t pay you enough to do this job, I can’t believe I just said that in the meeting. Then as the day progresses into night, you worry about having enough to pay the mortgage this month, you run out of time to help with the homework, and next thing you know, it’s time for bed and you can tell right now that you’re not going to get enough sleep .
And that’s just the small stuff. We worry about enough time to: spend with our family or friends, work on that project, improve our skills, exercise, make a good dinner, advance our careers, our lifestyles and our world. We fret over money, the state of the country, our neighborhoods going down the drain, our house falling apart, our kids going down the wrong path, our health taking a nose dive, and we aren’t getting any younger.
We worry that we are not good enough, people are mad at us, we can’t keep up, we can’t cope, we are not worthy, we didn’t do enough today, we are too old or young, we are too fat or thin, we are too this or too that.
If you pay very close attention, you will notice that we spend a majority of our life trying to avoid our lack of things or trying to find ways to change our environment so we quit feeling like we are lacking. It’s subtle, yet persistent. If only I had a better job, home, spouse, friends, tools, more money, time, skills, patience, and so on. If only – THEN things would be better. This persistent attention to what we are “missing” in our lives or in ourselves is a very quiet and sneaky thought process that may go on for many, many years without our even noticing it. Until – a dramatic change occurs in our condition like a loss of loved one, job, home, health, marriage, or friend. THEN we notice.
Lack mentality is not reserved as unique for the 21st century, but as the new century mark turned over, a pervasive theme has emerged that supports and perpetuates the fact that; we are steeped in a world that considers itself less than it should be. This appears to be the mantra of how to get change accomplished – by pointing out how inadequate we have been in the past. This is not a political, social or cultural or global problem, this is actually an individual choice problem. As long as we submit to the idea that we live in a world, including our own little piece of the world, that is inadequate, lacking and has a long way to go to be satisfying – then we are a part of the 21st century lack mentality.
Can you imagine a world that takes a different viewpoint? Can you imagine even your own household taking a different viewpoint? And I’m not talking about Pollyannish denial of what is going on around you or the world, but I AM talking about a paradigm shift that approaches living from a perspective of never enough, to a perspective of always enough. No matter what issue you are faced with, understanding that there are more available resources (including things like love, time, energy (both personal and environmental), if we approach the challenges from the obviousness of abundance. And it is rather obvious isn’t it. From a larger perspective, we worry about the world, but we forget that feeling like we are “running out” of anything is not a new concept. Somehow, someway, we always get through it. A way will be made known! For our own personal lives, even those of us who seemed to have lost everything, we are here, we are OK, and we will get through this because just when you think you have lost everything, a way is made known.
Of course in my view, when we include a spiritual element of Infinite Source to this approach, then our mindsets and momentum shifts to an even stronger level. If we assume that our Creator is constantly replenishing, renewing, and refreshing then we see that nothing can ever be truly diminished. That change is the vehicle for growth, not the red flag of decline.
Now I would like to say that I have mastered this lack mentality thing and I am living in the luxury of an abundant mindset that provides all my material, personal, and spiritual needs at every moment. But I can’t – yet. But – what I do have is an awareness of my lack mentality and I have seen the evidence of how a changed mindset can affect people and circumstances in dramatic ways, including in my own life. We need to understand that this mindset is deeply ingrained in our psyche, as you can see from the opening of this article. We are steeped in it, socially, culturally, politically, and individually. But it only takes one small demonstration of how a changed attitude of lack to abundance, can make you a believer. And, I AM A BELIEVER.
I resolved, I do not want to be controlled by my fears, doubts, inadequacies and conditions. I choose to look at the world and our Divine Universe as always giving, expanding, and constantly replenishing. I will not numb my mind to mediocrity, dissatisfaction and settling. I expect more out of the world, myself, and my Creator and I know it is available.
We begin to change this lack mentality by first being aware of it, especially within ourselves. When we can see both the tendencies we have towards a lack mentality AND the possibility of something different, we can open ourselves to make some dramatic changes to our mindset. Life is about opportunities – not challenges. Each area in our life can be expanded and enhanced by viewing it differently with a consciousness of abundance and fearlessness.
This is a topic of global magnitude – literally, and deserves a great deal of attention. But for the sake of getting an opportunity to knock on the door of your thought with this article, I will end the analysis of 21st century lack mentality for the moment and conclude with a few ideas on embracing a more abundant mindset into your life, and by reflection, touching the world with abundance.
First step is to create a sense of awareness.
- Create a sense of awareness of your lack mentality related to your outside environment, such as home, work, family, friends, time in general, social and world.
- Create a sense of awareness of your lack mentality towards you – finding fault in yourself, diminishing yourself to others, even jokingly, being disappointed in your skills, behavior, actions. A great deal of unconscious wasted time gets spent in self depreciating thoughts.
- Create a sense of awareness of lack mentality in others – please do not judge others for this but begin to understand the pervasiveness of this mentality. Include everyone in your analysis from TV shows, news, family members, or co-workers.
Target a specific area in your life to work on for change
- Pick an easy target to begin. One of my first targets was changing my thoughts the very first moment I woke up in the morning. I went from having a consistent immediate assessment on my sleep value to waking up every morning saying in my head, “Good Morning – Today is big with blessings.” Now that is a habit worth keeping. Totally frames your whole day.
- Develop a plan that works for you to make a change in a preferred specific target area, like money, time, or relationships. I use affirmations to assist me and for my early morning change, I put a little 3×5 note card on my nightstand with my affirmation. I forgot to say it/feel it many mornings, but in about 2 weeks I started to remember a lot more than I forgot.
- Record your success, either in a written or digital journal or very clearly in your mind. Do not forget how freeing it feels to let go of a cloying lack thought.
- Complaining is another way of saying – I don’t think what is currently happening is enough, or does not meet the mark, or is not satisfying in any way. Use any type of trigger that might be effective for you to catch yourself complaining. Don’t get mad at yourself if you get caught – be glad you saw it. Most people complain and don’t even realize they are doing it. The more you catch yourself doing it – the more likely you are to stop doing it.
- Notice others complaining – again, don’t judge or label them as complainers. Be empathetic and see how easy it is to fall into complaining about things. It’s very infectious.
- This is another way of saying be grateful. But I take it a step further, because sometimes I think gratitude can actually be a diminishing quality because we get disappointed it isn’t expressed enough in ourselves and others. But when we really appreciate things, we are truly being grateful for them. Begin by appreciating the easy stuff, like a good meal, a funny TV show, a child’s good behavior, or a smile from your co-worker.
- Continue to grow your sense of appreciation in others, in world issues, like technology, or science, yourself, God.
- Begin to notice the amazing abundance all around you. Go outside! You will always find something in nature that screams abundance. Look around you and see the amazing abundance at your fingertips and really begin to take note of them in your mind.
- Develop an abundance vision board, notebook or journal. This will be a consistent reminder that abundance is a reality, every day, in so many ways. There really is so much! You will begin to be amazed that you missed it before, so make a record of it on your vision board so you can relish in it frequently.
Create an abundance atmosphere in your life
- Sometimes we do not get to choose who we hang out with, but where possible, create an atmosphere of abundance with the people you associate with most frequently. Choose friends that support an abundant positive outlook on life. Be alert when you’re around those that don’t take a positive outlook on life. Look for activities and events that support abundant relationships and dialogue.
- Develop an environment that supports abundance. Put little sayings in your home that are uplifting and energizing. Put trinkets around you that remind you of abundance. Avoid emotionally draining and divisive TV, music or conversations.
Blessings – Joleen
About the Author
Joleen Halloran is the author of Finding Home – Breaking Free from Limits under the pseudo name of Joleen Bridges. This book represents over 10 years of research and inspiration in personal and spiritual empowerment and provides readers with a pathway to overcome limits and discover authentic divine qualities in their lives and to live a life of unbounded freedom. .
Additionally Joleen is the owner of ZoomIT Marketing, a social media and internet marketing coaching and training company. Joleen’s business background includes extensive experience in project management, leadership, specializing in motivational techniques and corporate culture.
Beyond Joleen’s professional life, she is an avid reader and researcher of books and other materials related to her profession, but also to her special passion, which is metaphysical and spirituality topics. You can find out more about Joleen’s book at her books website, www.breakinfreefromlimits.com. Additional articles of a spiritual and inspirational nature can be found at the book’s website as well. The book is available for purchase at Amazon and at a discounted price directly from the books website.